Know Thine Enemy.... Knowledge is power....

Just back from a two hour water aerobics session in the 80 f sea in Vietnam, everything but bicep curls and all the forward, backward and sideways running is done while treading water now, seven days a week, electric storms permitting that is.

Today was all upper body work, chest, shoulders, arms, abs etc, tomorrow will be two hours of legs and a bit of arms and swimming. Anyway it gives me tons of quality time to process whatever is currently on my mind.

Toxic people ruining whole generations of families has been bugging me recently, the bane of my entire life, had I known back when I was child what I know now, multiple toxic relationships may have been salvageable, knowledge really is power, they should teach us how to deal with mental abuse a school, I mean it.

Dysfunctional families can be created by many situations, one or both parents usually, not mine thankfully.

One of the men I had the misfortune to be exposed to is totally obnoxious, pretends to be nice, typical narcissistic behaviour. He controls every minute of his wife's life and wraps it up as if he loves her so much he cannot let her out of his sight for a minute, sick as fuck. His adult son and entire family hates him, that include the sons wife and two adult boys, I'm told the abuser "allows" his brow beaten wife an hour a week to go see her own sons family, what a joke.

The way these evil people work is they keep pecking away at you, mostly really childish things, stupid comments all day long, day after day, week on week until you blow. When you do finally blow they generally run off crying (literally blubbing). Once they have driven you away they can start bad mouthing you to their victims all over again and the whole vicious cycle starts again and again and again.

I'm into my seventh decade but a chance meeting with a professional in this field changed everything, she explained exactly what I've mixed up in, every single thing is about toxic humans attacking the people I care about.

SO, time for everyone to act like adults and confront this problem head on. I love my family but nearly four decades of dealing with one mans bad behaviour in my family is too long. He's made it impossible for me to have a proper adult relationship with my sister and her three adult children because they are all worried how the toxic human in their family will retaliate. I'm the target of his insane jealousy, I could care less about what he or anyone else owns or does in their life, he makes it his mission in life to nose into other peoples business, a trait of ALL narcs.

It became a real problem when I found out he actively tries to hurt me and people I love badly, then it has to be stopped.

Narcs will always try to damage people that threaten them (read that as EVERYONE). I could care less what they say about me tbh, but knowing they are damaging the lives of the people I love and me just letting happen makes it impossible to turn a blind eye to.

Last time I tried to speak to my family narc, Pee Wee he slammed the phone down on me because I told him his latest stupid control freak thing he tried to do to me wasn't going to happen. Please call me when you grow a set of man balls Pee Wee, we can sort this out like adults should.